I've been told recently that love is not painful, it feels incredible. The pain and hurt we feel doesn't come from love, it comes from our doubts, fears, anxiety, perceived rejections, broken trusts, anger, jealousy, envy, etc.
So why do we as a culture lump all those other feelings in with love?
I've been told recently that love is not painful, it feels incredible. The pain and hurt we feel doesn't come from love, it comes from our doubts, fears, anxiety, perceived rejections, broken trusts, anger, jealousy, envy, etc.
So why do we as a culture lump all those other feelings in with love?
LOVE DOES NOT HURT, THINGS THAT TRANSPIRE WHILE WE ARE IN LOVE UNFORTUNATELY DOES HURT. LOVE, TRUE LOVE FEELS SO UNCONTROLLABLY GOOD, THAT IT DRAWS US INTO SEARCHING FOR IT AGAIN ONCE A RELATIONSHIP HAS EXPIRED. PERSONALLY, I DON'T REGRET ANYONE THAT I HAVE BEEN IN LOVE WITH OR WHAT WE HAVE SHARED. LOVE SHOULD BE OUR MOST VALUED TREASURE AS HUMANS. WE SHOULD LOOK FOR IT, DESIRE IT AS WELL AS APPRECIATE IT, WHEN WE HAVE IT. WE TEND TO LOOK FOR EXCUSES FOR A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP AND WHAT BETTER TO BLAME IT ON THAN LOVE. I LOVED TOO MUCH OR I DIDN'T LOVE ENOUGH OR HE FOUND A BETTER LOVE, ITS ALL AN EXCUSE FOR WHAT REALLY HAPPENS TO BREAK UP TWO HEARTS. WE ALL ARE HUMAN AND DONT WANT TO FACE REALITY AT TIMES INCLUDING WHY LOVE, OR LACK OF IT TENDS TO HURT. I HOPE THIS IS HELPFUL TO YOU IN YOUR SEARCH, GOOD LUCK.
LOVE DOES NOT HURT, THINGS THAT TRANSPIRE WHILE WE ARE IN LOVE UNFORTUNATELY DOES HURT. LOVE, TRUE LOVE FEELS SO UNCONTROLLABLY GOOD, THAT IT DRAWS US INTO SEARCHING FOR IT AGAIN ONCE A RELATIONSHIP HAS EXPIRED. PERSONALLY, I DON'T REGRET ANYONE THAT I HAVE BEEN IN LOVE WITH OR WHAT WE HAVE SHARED. LOVE SHOULD BE OUR MOST VALUED TREASURE AS HUMANS. WE SHOULD LOOK FOR IT, DESIRE IT AS WELL AS APPRECIATE IT, WHEN WE HAVE IT. WE TEND TO LOOK FOR EXCUSES FOR A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP AND WHAT BETTER TO BLAME IT ON THAN LOVE. I LOVED TOO MUCH OR I DIDN'T LOVE ENOUGH OR HE FOUND A BETTER LOVE, ITS ALL AN EXCUSE FOR WHAT REALLY HAPPENS TO BREAK UP TWO HEARTS. WE ALL ARE HUMAN AND DONT WANT TO FACE REALITY AT TIMES INCLUDING WHY LOVE, OR LACK OF IT TENDS TO HURT. I HOPE THIS IS HELPFUL TO YOU IN YOUR SEARCH, GOOD LUCK.
Of course, continued failures at love would cause anyone to re-evaluate. One would be ignorant NOT to take the opportunity to try to discern why these relationships fail. With "continued" failures, I would hope that one would look inward to find the answer. However, I still think LOVE is the most enduring.--True
Of course, continued failures at love would cause anyone to re-evaluate. One would be ignorant NOT to take the opportunity to try to discern why these relationships fail. With "continued" failures, I would hope that one would look inward to find the answer. However, I still think LOVE is the most enduring.--True
I think it's because we have nothing else to put it on. We do not want to blame fear, anxiety, (etc) on ourselves and where we tend to have these feelings is when we are or were in a relationship (or ending a relationship).
It is also hard to blame it on someone else because the other person can talk for themselves and by putting all the UNWANTED feelings into something that can't say anything back, feels a bit better.
We don't want to think we're incompetent or show we're weak.
I think I made SOME sense. hehe.
I think it's because we have nothing else to put it on. We do not want to blame fear, anxiety, (etc) on ourselves and where we tend to have these feelings is when we are or were in a relationship (or ending a relationship).
It is also hard to blame it on someone else because the other person can talk for themselves and by putting all the UNWANTED feelings into something that can't say anything back, feels a bit better.
We don't want to think we're incompetent or show we're weak.
Quoting: Originally posted by truefriendinme Because in a relationship, a long term committment, it's supposed to be the two people "as one". They unite (in a marraige) "til death do [they] part." Just because you love someone, it doesn't mean that you won't be angry with them, be betrayed and jealous or percieve those broken trusts as rejections, or even hate them at some point. In any long-term relationship, married or not, there WILL be the experience of many, if not most, of these feelings.
But, of all those feelings, of all the emotions felt, the one that is most enduring is LOVE. Why do people forgive a partner's transgressions? Or even a friend, for that mattter? Because of the love shared between the two. Simple as that. --True
This is very true, however, when one has had one failed relationship after another ... does it not cause a person to reevalute the meaning of love.
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Quoting: Originally posted by truefriendinme Because in a relationship, a long term committment, it's supposed to be the two people "as one". They unite (in a marraige) "til death do [they] part." Just because you love someone, it doesn't mean that you won't be angry with them, be betrayed and jealous or percieve those broken trusts as rejections, or even hate them at some point. In any long-term relationship, married or not, there WILL be the experience of many, if not most, of these feelings.
But, of all those feelings, of all the emotions felt, the one that is most enduring is LOVE. Why do people forgive a partner's transgressions? Or even a friend, for that mattter? Because of the love shared between the two. Simple as that. --True
This is very true, however, when one has had one failed relationship after another ... does it not cause a person to reevalute the meaning of love.
Because in a relationship, a long term committment, it's supposed to be the two people "as one". They unite (in a marraige) "til death do [they] part." Just because you love someone, it doesn't mean that you won't be angry with them, be betrayed and jealous or percieve those broken trusts as rejections, or even hate them at some point. In any long-term relationship, married or not, there WILL be the experience of many, if not most, of these feelings.
But, of all those feelings, of all the emotions felt, the one that is most enduring is LOVE. Why do people forgive a partner's transgressions? Or even a friend, for that mattter? Because of the love shared between the two. Simple as that. --True
Because in a relationship, a long term committment, it's supposed to be the two people "as one". They unite (in a marraige) "til death do [they] part." Just because you love someone, it doesn't mean that you won't be angry with them, be betrayed and jealous or percieve those broken trusts as rejections, or even hate them at some point. In any long-term relationship, married or not, there WILL be the experience of many, if not most, of these feelings.
But, of all those feelings, of all the emotions felt, the one that is most enduring is LOVE. Why do people forgive a partner's transgressions? Or even a friend, for that mattter? Because of the love shared between the two. Simple as that. --True
