I'm sure I'm not alone in finding the initial "getting to know you" stuff online mostly quite tedious.
But there's one question in particular that really winds me up and I'm not sure why it bugs me so much.
"Why aren't you married?"
I know I'm in the minority at the grand old age of 44 to have never married and had kids, but my reason (which is simply I've never met anyone I could see myself spending the rest of my life with) is never enough.
I'm sure I'm not alone in finding the initial "getting to know you" stuff online mostly quite tedious.
But there's one question in particular that really winds me up and I'm not sure why it bugs me so much.
"Why aren't you married?"
I know I'm in the minority at the grand old age of 44 to have never married and had kids, but my reason (which is simply I've never met anyone I could see myself spending the rest of my life with) is never enough.
When you ask "but why?" or "how come?" what are you really expecting or hoping I'll say? Are you hoping for some dark freaky secret?
I'm not touting for answers, but do other people frequently get asked questions that really bug them? less...
I love the question. I'm 47 and in the same position, never been married, no kids. Everytime I answer that I never found anyone I would think of spending my life with, they make me feel like there must me something less wrong with me... Something major.
I swear to God, next time I'm ask, I'm going to answer that I was working in a leprosy colony and lost my potential mates one limb at a time.
ARIESRAM
You made me laugh so hard I almost fell off my chair.
Sorry, but i've just come out of hospital,having suffered some memory loss,after saving an old lady from a burning building.
I wasn't going to say anything, but now you've asked...she was on the 1,13...
I laughed so hard I nearly wet .... well, never mind ... I'm sure you get the idea.
You're totally forgiven ... please give my best to the old biddy when you go 'round to see how she is. And don't try and seduce her either until you're sure your more...
Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram
Sorry, but i've just come out of hospital,having suffered some memory loss,after saving an old lady from a burning building.
I wasn't going to say anything, but now you've asked...she was on the 1,134th floor, the fire ladder wasn't quite long enough,it only reached the 11th floor. I pleaded with the fire chief, to let me climb the ladder and LEAP off the end to save the 'old biddy', reluctantly he agreed, as it was 3pm, and all the other firemen had stopped for Tea. So, i made my way up to the end of the ladder,and with thick smoke all around me, i leaped the remaining 1,123 floors to where the old lady was. I threw her over my shoulder, then climbed down the side of the burning building, shielding the old lady from the flames, until we got to the ground, safe and sound. Only to slip on a disgarded Tea bag, and bang my head against the fire truck...hence why i couldn't remember our chat, one2one. It's ALL true i tells ya...it's all true.haha.
I laughed so hard I nearly wet .... well, never mind ... I'm sure you get the idea.
You're totally forgiven ... please give my best to the old biddy when you go 'round to see how she is. And don't try and seduce her either until you're sure your head is OK. LOL less...
I guess the "why are you still single" is probably meant as a compliment ozredhead, but sadly it's often said purely based on looks rather than after taking a bit of time getting to know ...
LOL yes thats what I meant....guess its not such a good idea to post comments after a few glasses of wine, cheers :) more...
Quoting: Originally posted by islandgal64
I guess the "why are you still single" is probably meant as a compliment ozredhead, but sadly it's often said purely based on looks rather than after taking a bit of time getting to know someone. That tends to make me rather dismissive of it as (hopefully!) most of us are so much deeper than that first layer.
By the way, when you say congealed ... did you mean conjoined, lol??
The "talking about sex" question irritates me too .... For me, and probably many others, sex is so much more than a recreational pastime. It always puts me off if a guys lists his hobbies/ interests as women and/or sex.
I'm no prude, and I know we're in the 21st century, but for me sex will come on to the agenda after at least a bit of a "getting to know you" stage. Of course it's worth finding out if you are likely to be compatible sexually, but i wouldn't be pursuing that in a first conversation, lol!
LOL yes thats what I meant....guess its not such a good idea to post comments after a few glasses of wine, cheers :) less...
Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 Well I have got the "Why are you still single?" question, and take it as a compliment, but do wonder what reaction I would get if I answered that it was because I used to be a congealed twin and now am left with the wrong body parts? lol
I think the really annoying one for me is "But why dont you want to talk about sex, dont you like it?" How do you answer that one? Damed if you do and damed if you dont.
Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 Well I have got the "Why are you still single?" question, and take it as a compliment, but do wonder what reaction I would get if I answered that it was because I used to be a congealed twin and now am left with the wrong body parts? lol
I think the really annoying one for me is "But why dont you want to talk about sex, dont you like it?" How do you answer that one? Damed if you do and damed if you dont.
I guess the "why are you still single" is probably meant as a compliment ozredhead, but sadly it's often said purely based on looks rather than after taking a bit of time getting to know someone. That tends to make me rather dismissive of it as (hopefully!) most of us are so much deeper than that first layer.
By the way, when you say congealed ... did you mean conjoined, lol??
The "talking about sex" question irritates me too .... For me, and probably many others, sex is so much more than a recreational pastime. It always puts me off if a guys lists his hobbies/ interests as women and/or sex.
I'm no prude, and I know we're in the 21st century, but for me sex will come on to the agenda after at least a bit of a "getting to know you" stage. Of course it's worth finding out if you are likely to be compatible sexually, but i wouldn't be pursuing that in a first conversation, lol! less...
Well I have got the "Why are you still single?" question, and take it as a compliment, but do wonder what reaction I would get if I answered that it was because I used to be a congealed twin and now am left with the wrong body parts? lol
I think the really annoying one for me is "But why dont you want to talk about sex, dont you like it?" How do you answer that one? Damed if you do and damed if you dont.
Yeah, that's right. I remember that conversation now. hehe.
You forgot?? How could you have forgotten that? I printed out that chat and put in in my scrapbook, with hearts and kisses framing the whole thing! rofl I'm hurt. :P
I agree with Aries. That particular question used to be a little annoying to me, too ... until the first time I chatted with someone who I could not believe didn't already have women falling all over him. Next thing ya know ... I started asking some of those same annoying questions we probably all hate. Including, "Why aren't you married?" I totally get it now. lol
I hate that one, too, Muaas4u! And Sparkles' one : "what are you looking for" really gets me frustrated. DUH! Someone who doesn't have to ask those questions would be a a start. Gheesh! What happened to the good ole' getting to know you, honestly wanting to have a good time routine? --True
