I'm sorry. I'm probably opening a door for disaproving replies, but am I the only woman tired of man who thinks I'm a total idiot??
Profile says he's looking for a meaningful relationship, love, the whole thing, but then the only thing he writes is : Looking for a woman with big tits. Yeah!! right!! So full of meaning!
Another profile, it says what he thinks I want to hear, then mentions he wants her to fullfill his sexual fantasy of bondage. Yeah, that says long term and loving relation more...
I'm sorry. I'm probably opening a door for disaproving replies, but am I the only woman tired of man who thinks I'm a total idiot??
Profile says he's looking for a meaningful relationship, love, the whole thing, but then the only thing he writes is : Looking for a woman with big tits. Yeah!! right!! So full of meaning!
Another profile, it says what he thinks I want to hear, then mentions he wants her to fullfill his sexual fantasy of bondage. Yeah, that says long term and loving relationship.
Or even better, he's looking for love, for his soulmate and you notice his status says : in a relationship. Hum... sorry polygamy is still against canadian laws.
Why can't they just say what it is they want? Why do they feel the need to wrap everything in a coating of love and devotion.
Do these men really think we won't see that in the end they just want sex but feel that they have to endure the emotional side of woman to get it.
I mean, most women I know won't sleep with a guy on the first date. They want intimacy and affection more then they want sex.
For a lot of women sex is about connecting with someone at more then just the physical level. It adds a quality to a already existing connection.
For me as well as for other women I know, jumping in bed with a man without knowing him is sex without meaning, just a physical need, often not as satisfying as it could be. But even more important, it makes most women feel like any women would do the job, like she's nothing special. Makes us feel undesirable.
One hint guys... We know you only want sex when you ask for it 5 minutes into the first date. It's a dead give away. less...
Quoting: Originally posted by petale46 Islandgal - Hestia
Actually girls, I have a very different explanation and I'm telling you right now you won't like it because it's not a pretty explanation.
Call me paranoid, but a lot of guys,...
I agree with that one, not all the men here are as manipulate as that, but there sure are some that think we are just desperate and thus easy. more...
Quoting: Originally posted by petale46 Islandgal - Hestia
Actually girls, I have a very different explanation and I'm telling you right now you won't like it because it's not a pretty explanation.
Call me paranoid, but a lot of guys, I think, feel that larger women are more desperate for attention OR sex and they think that by coming here and telling us what we want, they'll get us to jump in bed with them more easily because we are not as demanding as part of our self worth is in physical appearance which does not comply with the ideals.
I agree with that one, not all the men here are as manipulate as that, but there sure are some that think we are just desperate and thus easy. less...
Actually girls, I have a very different explanation and I'm telling you right now you won't like it because it's not a pretty explanation.
Call me paranoid, but a lot of guys, I think, feel that larger women are more desperate for attention OR sex and they think that by coming here and telling us what we want, they'll get us to jump in bed with them more easily because we are not as demanding as part of our self worth is in physical appearance which does not comply wit more...
Islandgal - Hestia
Actually girls, I have a very different explanation and I'm telling you right now you won't like it because it's not a pretty explanation.
Call me paranoid, but a lot of guys, I think, feel that larger women are more desperate for attention OR sex and they think that by coming here and telling us what we want, they'll get us to jump in bed with them more easily because we are not as demanding as part of our self worth is in physical appearance which does not comply with the ideals. less...
Quoting: Originally posted by hestia1 isn't it a shame with all the sex sites out there, that they still come to sites where that is not what people are looking for.
such a waste of alls time.
I totally agree Hestia but with some of the explicit topics and comments on here lately maybe there are mixed messages being given out about what IS wanted on this site...?
isn't it a shame with all the sex sites out there, that they still come to sites where that is not what people are looking for.
such a waste of alls time.
I understand what you are saying about trust and them wanting just one thing from you.
I found a very easy solution. Tell them they won't get what they want. Meaning, tell them you won't have sex with them until you know that you are truly compatible and attracted to one another in other ways.
Usually the sex crazed guys leave the ranks pretty fast, while the one that are truthfully looking for a mate will accept the wait.
When a guy says he wants to meet me, I always offer more...
Hestia1
I understand what you are saying about trust and them wanting just one thing from you.
I found a very easy solution. Tell them they won't get what they want. Meaning, tell them you won't have sex with them until you know that you are truly compatible and attracted to one another in other ways.
Usually the sex crazed guys leave the ranks pretty fast, while the one that are truthfully looking for a mate will accept the wait.
When a guy says he wants to meet me, I always offer coffee and no sex... if he changes his mind, I know what he wanted and that I made the right decision... unless I want the same thing he wants... but then that's a totally different scenario... hehehehehe less...
That's the thing that you shouldn't do... it's not because they lie that you shouldn't trust your own judgment anymore. That is the nature of a lie, to say something nobody can tell is not true.
To not trust yourself after a lier would be like saying that contrary to every other human being, you have a radar that can tell a lie from a truth.
I've been lied to like you wouldn't believe. I've even had a boyfriend who had a wife and family in an other city but would spe more...
Truefriendinme.
That's the thing that you shouldn't do... it's not because they lie that you shouldn't trust your own judgment anymore. That is the nature of a lie, to say something nobody can tell is not true.
To not trust yourself after a lier would be like saying that contrary to every other human being, you have a radar that can tell a lie from a truth.
I've been lied to like you wouldn't believe. I've even had a boyfriend who had a wife and family in an other city but would spend every coming week-end with me. (Naturally I believed he was working on the road during the week, not being at home with his wife and kids)
I still trust myself and trust other from the first time I meet them, because it would be unfair to not trust them and make them pay for what that did. So I give myself totally in the relationship and hope for the best.
The funny thing is, it's not so bad for me because I've never been truly in love with someone. You know the end all love, the overwhelming feeling of not being able to live without someone. I've never felt that way. I've always been more in love with the idea of not being alone, of being with someone, with the idea of being in love. It's not as devastating when you know there an expiry date on your relationship...
petale46
I have wondered if there was a blog to list those on here that are only looking for certain things. Kinda like the site dont date him. LOL
it seems as though this would be one site that people would be honest but I guess they are out there no matter what.
There you go, Hestia! Trust with a distance. I think for me, I have such a hard time doing that. Once I open myself up to trust someone, I have a tendency to just "let it all go". I want to trust with all my heart, and this day and age it's just not safe-- emotionally, psychologically or even physically! I have to really work at keeping myself cordoned off, for lack of a better term. I have to keep myself in check, because I have found that all too often, you let yourself go, and more...
There you go, Hestia! Trust with a distance. I think for me, I have such a hard time doing that. Once I open myself up to trust someone, I have a tendency to just "let it all go". I want to trust with all my heart, and this day and age it's just not safe-- emotionally, psychologically or even physically! I have to really work at keeping myself cordoned off, for lack of a better term. I have to keep myself in check, because I have found that all too often, you let yourself go, and then no one comes after you! (lol!) Petale, I don't know HOW to tell if someone is telling the truth about how they feel. For years, I thought my ex was telling the truth. But, ummm... he's my "ex"! (LOL!) So, I guess I have lost faith in my own judgement, and I have to develop my own sense of direction before I can trust in someone else's, lest I be led down antoher long and winding road for no reason at all! You likely have come much closer to that than me, and I wish you all the luck in the world!--True less...
I agree but to trust to let them be close, I have to be cautious because I tend to trust with a distance. Even on this site you get the men that want to meet you but then are only looking for one thing. When you just want to settle down with someone that appreciate you for who you are and how you treat others it does get discouraging.
I'll go one step further. You go on the dating scene knowing there are a lot of lying, not very truthful men out there and you can't do a thing to protect yourself. What I mean is you have to give your trust to every men that crosses your path and not assume he's a lying jerk, because you would not want them to assume you are a hag with a bagage as big as the planet.
Everytime you trust he's saying the truth and if that trust is broken, you start again, trusting again.
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Truefriendinme
I'll go one step further. You go on the dating scene knowing there are a lot of lying, not very truthful men out there and you can't do a thing to protect yourself. What I mean is you have to give your trust to every men that crosses your path and not assume he's a lying jerk, because you would not want them to assume you are a hag with a bagage as big as the planet.
Everytime you trust he's saying the truth and if that trust is broken, you start again, trusting again.
Why do you we waste our time, I'm telling you. Is it worth all the hassle.
It does, because as Barbra Streisand says in the Mirror has two face: We keep trying because while it last, it feels fu$%" great less...
I agree with you not ALL male are like that. But you must admit that having so many of them being like THAT, makes the search for the one that are not very tedious...
If you plant potatoes and you have to dig up four or five potatoes that are rotten before finding a good one, and it happens year after year. Wouldn't you stop planting potatoes!!! hehehehehhe
petale46 Not all of us male of the human species are ruled by our" Primitive Second Brains". Those are males that have not emotionally matured enough.Those males bring us Males that have chosen to evolve above our Neanderthal club bearing brothers down.
Petale,
I have to agree,we already know the two things that make men happy. Woman want more and just one man to be with us.
I cant believe that it is so hard to find one decent man.
No, you are most definitley NOT the only one tired of it. I dread the day that I actually decide to go out and TRY to meet men. It seems such a waste of time, given how many frauds there are out there. Yet, we all are left wanting the connection of another human being. Catch 22, if you ever saw one... --True
I get the feeling that since it's a website that checks the wording the guys have to "disguise" what they really want.
I get tired of many things with the dating regime. It seems the "dating game" has evolved into a regiment.
There are no rules, the guidelines are only created by me. When I think about it, it's always been that way in the end. Peer pressure was high school and then society. Now, it's whatever I want inside my front door.
I get the feeling that since it's a website that checks the wording the guys have to "disguise" what they really want.
I get tired of many things with the dating regime. It seems the "dating game" has evolved into a regiment.
There are no rules, the guidelines are only created by me. When I think about it, it's always been that way in the end. Peer pressure was high school and then society. Now, it's whatever I want inside my front door.
I'll not cave in and breach my values. I am the only one that has to look at me in the mirror, after.
