Do you think everyone has a mate somewhere on this planet?? Are we all suppose to find Love.
You know the passionate, disturbing and distracting love everyone dream of, when you can't imagine a life without the other person... is this for everyone??
What if you don't find a mate... Is you life over?? Have you failed if you never find him or her??
What's the point of finding a mate when you re not at an age to build a family, because in the end isn t marriage about the propogation of t more...
Do you think everyone has a mate somewhere on this planet?? Are we all suppose to find Love.
You know the passionate, disturbing and distracting love everyone dream of, when you can't imagine a life without the other person... is this for everyone??
What if you don't find a mate... Is you life over?? Have you failed if you never find him or her??
What's the point of finding a mate when you re not at an age to build a family, because in the end isn t marriage about the propogation of the specie?? less...
Does it help... I mean saying he's missing on this wonderful woman. I've tried and I have to admit that it really isn't any consolation. I don't want to think about the guys who won't get me, but I'd rather hear from the guys who want me.
Petale
guess I don't have to worry about that, since I have my son.
but that doesn't stop me from wanting to give of myself to someone who would appreciate it. I see so many who want to give and so many who are unwilling to receive and they miss out on the best thing they ever could have had.
I try not to think that there is some man out there that is just to late to receive this wonderful, giving and caring woman sitting here waiting.
Thank you for the hug and I'll take it while you are still offering. You might take it back with what's to follow.
I believe, personally think, this message in no way is the opinion of this station or this gender... but I believe it is typically male not to be open and free in giving themselves.
Women by their socialisation, culture and upbringing are essentially always open, ready to love, men, kids, puppies and kitties. We get involved emotionnally with almost everything i more...
RWGROOT60
Thank you for the hug and I'll take it while you are still offering. You might take it back with what's to follow.
I believe, personally think, this message in no way is the opinion of this station or this gender... but I believe it is typically male not to be open and free in giving themselves.
Women by their socialisation, culture and upbringing are essentially always open, ready to love, men, kids, puppies and kitties. We get involved emotionnally with almost everything in our life and will spend hours with other women talking about it, every nuances of every emotions.
So here's my message. I'm here, waiting, open and ready. I am free of baggage from my past, free as a new born to love someone, ready to engage in a loving relationship of sharing my life, my heart and my body...
He might still be outthere, but my real question is: is he too late. What's the point when you can't have what you wanted anymore... a family, kids, someone you leave behind when you die, someone who build something to leave to... what about that instinctive need human beings have to leave a descendance.
petale46
I you make me remmeber when I was in high school, all I wanted was to be married and have kids. My brother has been marked for many many years I think like 25 years now.
WOW did I miss the mark. I so admire those who have found thier mate and have stayed together for many years.
It still gives me hope that my other half is out there.
First off here is a(((((((((((bigasshug))))))))))))) just for you. I come from a family of seven children 5 who got married. When I filed for divorce it was like the biggest stain on the family. No one in the history of our family ever was divorced, so being first at something really the bubble world.
I do believe we have more than one soul mate. No we don't meet them all.
I believe we have to prepare ourselves for meeting our soulmates by learning to give of ourselves without fear more...
Petale
First off here is a(((((((((((bigasshug))))))))))))) just for you. I come from a family of seven children 5 who got married. When I filed for divorce it was like the biggest stain on the family. No one in the history of our family ever was divorced, so being first at something really the bubble world.
I do believe we have more than one soul mate. No we don't meet them all.
I believe we have to prepare ourselves for meeting our soulmates by learning to give of ourselves without fear. I am not talking about the physical giving.That is so often seen as the culmination of a relationship, but in truth it is by far the easiest part. Its the emotional, social, and intellectual bonds that are hardest, and that means giving of yourself and accepting someone else, sharing thoughts and opinions..
I believe the day both are ready is the day you become soulmates andable to move on as a couple, as lovers and as partners less...
I have to admit feeling a sense of recognition when you talk about your friend. I m 47. I have a great job, several passions and interest, friends are true to me. On the other end, I'm one of five kids and I'm the only one still single. To make matter worse, three of my siblings found their love when they were teens, are still married after 30 years and more together.
I have a brother and a sister, three and four years older then me and they are both grand parents.
I have to admit feeling a sense of recognition when you talk about your friend. I m 47. I have a great job, several passions and interest, friends are true to me. On the other end, I'm one of five kids and I'm the only one still single. To make matter worse, three of my siblings found their love when they were teens, are still married after 30 years and more together.
I have a brother and a sister, three and four years older then me and they are both grand parents.
I'm envious as hell and it makes the waiting even harder. I want what they have. Makes my great life not so great everytime I return from a family gathering and it takes a few days to see how good I have it. I think that deep in our soul, there is a need to build a family, to reproduce. It's not a thought process, it's just something that feels genetically engrained. less...
I do agree with you wholeheartedly on so many levels. Everytime I met someone I have to make a conscious decision not to make him pay for the previous men in my life by not trusting him fully until proven he can not be trusted.
I don't feel like my life is over. My life is full and rich, filled with friends, family and passions.
I must insist however, you say you believe we have more then one soul mate. Do you believe that we all meet them at least once and that we just m more...
RWGROOT60
I do agree with you wholeheartedly on so many levels. Everytime I met someone I have to make a conscious decision not to make him pay for the previous men in my life by not trusting him fully until proven he can not be trusted.
I don't feel like my life is over. My life is full and rich, filled with friends, family and passions.
I must insist however, you say you believe we have more then one soul mate. Do you believe that we all meet them at least once and that we just miss the boat by our own stupidity or selfishness or do you believe we might ever meet them.
In the latter, what is one to do when waiting for a soulmate that never comes. Should we forget the whole process, settle for less then our dreams, choose a relationship that we know goes nowhere but helps waiting.
How long should one wait for its soulmate before going to their own personnal plan B. less...
I have to agree, I would love to find my true love, or the other half that makes me whole but untill then I have learned that only I can make me happy and therefore I enjoy life as much as possible. When I finaly meet my mate things can only be great he will know that I dont need him to make me happy but that he will only enhance mine and as I hope to enhance his.
I think we all have likely hundres of mates to choose from. We just have to decide what or who has the greatest potential. Since my life and marraige have failed miserably and I'm divorcing, I will use a friend as an example. She is my age has never married, has no children and is very well educated and affluent. She dates, but has not found Mr.Right. She has been engaged only once, but ended it when he refused to commit. She is very clear in what she wants and I am just amazed she is not more...
I think we all have likely hundres of mates to choose from. We just have to decide what or who has the greatest potential. Since my life and marraige have failed miserably and I'm divorcing, I will use a friend as an example. She is my age has never married, has no children and is very well educated and affluent. She dates, but has not found Mr.Right. She has been engaged only once, but ended it when he refused to commit. She is very clear in what she wants and I am just amazed she is not already married. But, it just goes to show: We may be available, looking, wanting and open, but that doesn't mean that the options out there are what we want to indulge in! --True less...
I think we all do, and I don't believe its just one!!!!!!!
I believe we grow our relationships through offering of ourselves. Our soulmate(s) do the same. Overtime a deep level of trust develops that allows two people to share anything, without fear.
I think we have become so me oriented, that we forget that the first step in the process is that we need to make ourselves available. Once we have been hurt it gets harder to put ourselves ou more...
I've been pondering this question for a few days.
I think we all do, and I don't believe its just one!!!!!!!
I believe we grow our relationships through offering of ourselves. Our soulmate(s) do the same. Overtime a deep level of trust develops that allows two people to share anything, without fear.
I think we have become so me oriented, that we forget that the first step in the process is that we need to make ourselves available. Once we have been hurt it gets harder to put ourselves out there.
I dare anyone reading this blog to read there own responses to other blogs and count the number of reasons we give for doing something or not doing something. Is it an excuse? You decide.
I decided when I started to blog I would make no excuses, or hide behind the past. It has been liberating
No weight excuse
No disability excuse
No well the ex did this excuse
Either I want someone to accept me for who I am or I don't
Either I take responsibility for who I am or I don't.
If we continue to make excuses, how can we be open to a new relationship. We end up justifying rather than celebrating
I choose to celebrate, bring out the big cups. less...
I do agree with you it's not the end of things if you don't find love. I love my life right now, I have various interest and passions.
From your answer, you were saying that you don't think has a soulmate or a life changing love in the bank. Ok... Now just for the sake of argument (I love playing devil's advocate) when do you think someone should resign themselves to the fact that it might not happen for them.
I understand what you are saying and far from me to say my life is over because I don't have kids and a mate, it was a purely rhetorical question. However, I do now think that as far as I'm concern marriage is not a necessity anymore as there are not kids or a family involved. As I'm getting older, I don't feel the need for it because my view on both religion and relationship has changed with time. It was doomed to as changing perception is part of evolution.
I do like to think that there is a mate for everyone. It just takes some of us longer to find ours. I was 45 years old when I met my fiance - and I do believe he is my one true mate.
Is your life over if you don't find him/her? It shouldn't be and it doesn't have to be. As long as you have a passion for something. Something that you really love that makes you feel special, valued, and complete. And with or without a mate this is important to personal happiness. If you haven't found your pass more...
I do like to think that there is a mate for everyone. It just takes some of us longer to find ours. I was 45 years old when I met my fiance - and I do believe he is my one true mate.
Is your life over if you don't find him/her? It shouldn't be and it doesn't have to be. As long as you have a passion for something. Something that you really love that makes you feel special, valued, and complete. And with or without a mate this is important to personal happiness. If you haven't found your passion, DON'T stop searching for it.
As for children and family, when I was a young woman I wanted a family desparately - and CHILDREN more than anything. That was what marriage meant to me. I married very young and I did produce 2 beautiful children. They are adults now and I still adore them, but the marriage ended long before they grew up and I never wound up with the "Walton" type family that I wanted.
Now marriage does not mean quite the same thing to me. When I envision my married life with the man I am engaged to now, its about companionship and enjoying each other's company - well and great sex too, lol. But mostly about having someone who wants to be with me - who loves being with me and me with him - while we hold hands and grow old together, supporting each other through good/bad times. And my children and future grandchildren are our family, but we are not looking to create more children together. Even if I did not have children I don't think we would. Its not what we want, even though he has no children of his own. We want to be able to be "selfish" and to spend our time and money on things that WE want, including our retirement funds, as opposed to babysitters and schools and college funds.
Kids are a lot of work. Worth it? Yes, definitely. But I sacrificed a lot and I went without a lot to provide for my kids when my kids were growing up. I had never planned to raise them as a single parent, yet that is exactly what I did. It was much harder than I ever anticipated. It was my choice to have kids and I don't regret a minute of it. My kids are my pride and joy. But I'm at an age now (48) where its time to live for me and to focus on MY needs. And to just love my man. less...
I don't have a special someone in my life, and yet my life is full and happy, I didn't fail just because there's no man! My life isn't over just because I don't have a man! (Nobody should think there life is over just because their alone). Not everyone will find that special someone, that doesn't mean it's the end of the world. I don't believe we were all put on this earth to marry and have children, some of us were put here to help other, to do as much good as we can. In my eyes thats not fa more...
I don't have a special someone in my life, and yet my life is full and happy, I didn't fail just because there's no man! My life isn't over just because I don't have a man! (Nobody should think there life is over just because their alone). Not everyone will find that special someone, that doesn't mean it's the end of the world. I don't believe we were all put on this earth to marry and have children, some of us were put here to help other, to do as much good as we can. In my eyes thats not failing...
What I have to say about marriage and children is, I believe two people can be married without having children and live a full and happy life. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. Why bring a child into this world just to abuse and harm them. People should take a good long look at themselves before bring a child into the world they really don't want or can't handle.
My mom died 11 years ago and left my dad very sad. (they were married for over 4o yrs) After 3 years of being alone he found himself a girlfriend. There are still going strong and both are 78(soon to be 79). My point to this little story is they are both way past the childbearing years yet they found LOVE again and that makes them HAPPY. And isn't happiness at that age all that matters!!! less...
