Well I know most of your songs about having a b R o Ke N one and also how some of us would or wouldnt get REVENGE, because we got it broken, but as we're all on here, we all know that they do mend....but how???
When mine got smashed into thousands of pieces, I went through many different stages and many many excesses, including food, alchohol, prescription drugs and meaningless sex with faceless people, it took a long time for me to even be able to discuss it with very bewildered friends and more...
Well I know most of your songs about having a b R o Ke N one and also how some of us would or wouldnt get REVENGE, because we got it broken, but as we're all on here, we all know that they do mend....but how???
When mine got smashed into thousands of pieces, I went through many different stages and many many excesses, including food, alchohol, prescription drugs and meaningless sex with faceless people, it took a long time for me to even be able to discuss it with very bewildered friends and family.
But I realised the meaning of "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"
I can sometimes still get hurt and we all suffer rejection in many forms....Is it that nothing hurts as much as that first betrayal or we just deal with it better for having experienced it?
I believe that love and loving again is the only way to truly mend a broken heart.
We can do many things to patch it up a bit or hide it away from more potential pain, but these do not restore/repair it.
It is said that time heals and it does, but only because it gives you a chance to look at things objectively, to see what part we played and to realize that there were sign that we missed or did not want to see.
When our heart is broken we can all too often feel like we are the victim, more...
I believe that love and loving again is the only way to truly mend a broken heart.
We can do many things to patch it up a bit or hide it away from more potential pain, but these do not restore/repair it.
It is said that time heals and it does, but only because it gives you a chance to look at things objectively, to see what part we played and to realize that there were sign that we missed or did not want to see.
When our heart is broken we can all too often feel like we are the victim, and it is because of this that we dont/wont move ahead. Feel like we had no control over it then, and wont again now.
Not allowing yourself to love again, is like giving the person who hurt you permission to just keep on hurting you, over and over again. less...
Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram I've had a zipper put into my heart, so there's no way a woman can break it again.
Many years ago, that happened to me, BIG TIME, (must be why i am,as i am, Amuse)...i had dark thoughts...VERY DARK. I...
Ariesram.....that's so sad and disappointing. I think you are probably stronger than that. 25 years without love? What happened to "getting back on that horse". I'm sure 95% of us here have been hurt the same way but you have to get pa more...
Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram I've had a zipper put into my heart, so there's no way a woman can break it again.
Many years ago, that happened to me, BIG TIME, (must be why i am,as i am, Amuse)...i had dark thoughts...VERY DARK. If i had acted on them, YOU wouldn't be reading this now.
But after 7 months of tears, i thought to myself, she AINT worth doing, what i was thinking of doing. And i decided i would NEVER give a woman that power over me again. And that's how it's been...for the last 25 years...25 wasted years, fighting against falling in love again...
Ariesram.....that's so sad and disappointing. I think you are probably stronger than that. 25 years without love? What happened to "getting back on that horse". I'm sure 95% of us here have been hurt the same way but you have to get past it.
If I remember correctly you gave True the advice about her hangups with french kissing.....take that advice for yourself and unzip the heart!
Time is your biggest ingredient in healing. Trite but true. Over time I started exploring the things that made me "ME" again. Things I'd lost along the way. I opened my mind to new experiences/ideas - long before I opened my heart again.
I never used to understand the saying that when one door closes another opens until my broken heart was on the mend.
Time mends with the aid of family and friends but in essence so does putting up some barriers to slow down the sharing of the hurt.
Talking helps but you can't hurry the stages.
Some hearts never heal - they are always a little bit broken and never fully re-open to accept someone's love.
It is better to have loved than to never have loved at all. I firmly believe in this.
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I never used to understand the saying that when one door closes another opens until my broken heart was on the mend.
Time mends with the aid of family and friends but in essence so does putting up some barriers to slow down the sharing of the hurt.
Talking helps but you can't hurry the stages.
Some hearts never heal - they are always a little bit broken and never fully re-open to accept someone's love.
It is better to have loved than to never have loved at all. I firmly believe in this.
Having feelings/emotions makes me vulnerable but it also makes me human. less...
What I did was to use compartments for each hurt. I did tons of journal writing, I walked, I talked and one day it hit me. I loved that person for just certain reasons. Those reasons would not exist for anyone else. So I began putting memories in a box, literally. I learned that the "rejection" was not totally of me. The OLD person that left was also responsible for rejection of traits. I had a right to reject that person traits/issues. I segregated the parts that were rejected and more...
What I did was to use compartments for each hurt. I did tons of journal writing, I walked, I talked and one day it hit me. I loved that person for just certain reasons. Those reasons would not exist for anyone else. So I began putting memories in a box, literally. I learned that the "rejection" was not totally of me. The OLD person that left was also responsible for rejection of traits. I had a right to reject that person traits/issues. I segregated the parts that were rejected and really looked at them and at the rest of me that was not on the rejection list. Then I wrote about the part that were rejected. Was it that the other person could not understand or deal with those parts? Were those parts really bad? Nah, they weren't I learned.
Then I did that in my head. I also took the journals and put them in a box. Sealed it with duct tape. Then buried it under tons and tons or stuff in the garage ( obviously not willing to have it leave just yet)
When I got to the point of meeting someone new I found out that my heart grew back bigger for the hurt and pain I went through. ( I learned that from the movie, Must Love Dogs )
I also learned that I rejected many others for things that I knew would not fit into my life. I learned that rejection was a filtering process, not a bad thing to filter out spam huh?
I'm sure you will bounce back, even better after the experience and what you learned about yourself.
