Greetings all ! I just wanted to exchange some ideas with you. I would love to hear from men as well as women. Please help us understand our differences.
I am on a dating site, I have obviously had bad luck in love and have not found that special someone that I yearn to build my life around. If I take the time to wink at someone and then I am fortunate enough for them to wink back - then I am going to put time and effort into it. I want to give that person 100% so I will make time to talk to more...
Greetings all ! I just wanted to exchange some ideas with you. I would love to hear from men as well as women. Please help us understand our differences.
I am on a dating site, I have obviously had bad luck in love and have not found that special someone that I yearn to build my life around. If I take the time to wink at someone and then I am fortunate enough for them to wink back - then I am going to put time and effort into it. I want to give that person 100% so I will make time to talk to them and visit them even if it means staying up later than I want or talking longer than I may have the energy to. For the possibility of love and partnership, it is worth every minute ! However I tend to meet men that tell me they are interested and that they want what I do, but yet action wise they are not attentive to me, they go weeks without talking to me and basically put me on the back burner. I really want to meet a man who's goal is finding a sincere, substantial relationship and he will make it his priority and is willing to invest the time and attention to make it happen. I know we all have jobs and lives and are busy, busy, busy. I just feel that if you are too busy for love, then you should not be on a dating site or you should be clear in your profile that you only are here to make friends or casual acquaintances. I feel hurt inside because all of my high school buddies have went off and got married and have beautiful children and here I am without anyone. Plus I am only getting older and I feel like I am watching the life I feel I want and deserve pass me by. I am not mean or a user or classless. I of course am human and have faults, however I do my best to make an effort to improve myself and be the best woman I can be. I can be ditsy at times and talk a little louder than some people ( I'm from New York ), but I am a person who is kind and thoughtful and I would do anything in my power to help someone. I get lonley even though I am an independent woman who can live the rest of my life alone, but my life would forever be missing a piece only fulfilled by love. Why do men say they like me or want me or think I am special but then put me on the back burner ? Is that fair ? They act so non-chalant towards me, like I'm just a painting to hang on the wall. A posession they want but are not willing to take care of.
I am fed up of being treated like that. I felt like I put a lot of time and detail into my profile so that I could weed out the game players or the guys that are not serious. All I can say is what men don't understand is that when we build up experiences like this it eventually starts wearing us down and we become bitter and are less open to new people or are less inclined to just give our hearts away. The unfortunate thing in that circumstance is that one day Mr. Right may finally arrive and we will be too tired and burnt to even give him the time of day. That will be a loss for us both. I don't want to become that person. I don't want to hate men and I don't want to give up, but I feel with every man that disgards me I am fading away until I eventually have nothing left to offer, or that I want to offer.
I just wish that I find someone that would like to talk to me, spend time with me, love me, marry me and allow me the honor to have his kid. Maybe I'm holding out for the impossible.
Are my goals unrealistic ? Am I aiming too high ? Do I expect more from a man than I should ?
I have gotten a few emails from men feeling suprised that I am single ( Well, they don't know me ). I just take this dating site thing seriously. I am in it to win it and the much coveted prize is love. Love takes time though, and before that you have to have the compatibility and friendship. If people could let down their walls and let someone in ...give a heart a chance to really experience what is being offered.....we might live happier lives. I also have difinitive goals I seek to accomplish more...
I have gotten a few emails from men feeling suprised that I am single ( Well, they don't know me ). I just take this dating site thing seriously. I am in it to win it and the much coveted prize is love. Love takes time though, and before that you have to have the compatibility and friendship. If people could let down their walls and let someone in ...give a heart a chance to really experience what is being offered.....we might live happier lives. I also have difinitive goals I seek to accomplish and if you ask me a question I have an answer, just not an answer to my own questions...... less...
Thank you all for you time and contribution, It means a lot to me...
When I was a member for a month, I took that opportunity to email some men that had winked at me. One guy responded like 2 weeks later and said " I didn't even remeber placing a profile on this site " That struck me as strange. We talked a bit more about it and he said he was feeling lonley one night and had that " I don't know how to find love and I don't want to die alone " feeling so he was online crui more...
Thank you all for you time and contribution, It means a lot to me...
When I was a member for a month, I took that opportunity to email some men that had winked at me. One guy responded like 2 weeks later and said " I didn't even remeber placing a profile on this site " That struck me as strange. We talked a bit more about it and he said he was feeling lonley one night and had that " I don't know how to find love and I don't want to die alone " feeling so he was online cruising the web and found L.F and posted his profile. In the first 3 days he got winks from women who he was not interested in and then he just lost interest. He came out from under the cloud and forgot about the internet dating thing.
So, that was partially an explanation as to why some guys create profiles that make me think that they are on a sincere mission to find love and then when called up to get in the game aren't suited up.....
If a man truely cared in this day and age he would keep in touch. there is the phone , E-mail and text to keep in touch.So there is No reason to Not keep in touch! So Expet nothing less than you have stated in your bio.
Doing so you should separate the Men from the Little boys.
I am always amazed that the Women who are here and other sites I have been on are actually here.
Does that make sense?
There are some really beautiful and amazing women who cannot find what the need, want or deserve within the Cities they live and find themselves here. I am once again struck by an emotionally exciting, beautiful and what appears to be a great woman here on this site who Geographically beyond my reach. Our frustration levels are probably very similar.
I think sometimes we can more...
I am always amazed that the Women who are here and other sites I have been on are actually here.
Does that make sense?
There are some really beautiful and amazing women who cannot find what the need, want or deserve within the Cities they live and find themselves here. I am once again struck by an emotionally exciting, beautiful and what appears to be a great woman here on this site who Geographically beyond my reach. Our frustration levels are probably very similar.
I think sometimes we can connect so stongly with a woman and then find distance becomes the barrier.
I for one would never in any way hurt or put any woman on the back burner. I was brought up with more respect for women and people in general. Dont let things discourage you VegasAngel... you are truly beautiful. less...
Hi VagasAngel76,
Wow I think you may have hit a nerve, well maybe more than just one.
I am moved by what you write here with such openness and emotion.
Having searched for that kind of love/relationship all my life, and having settled for less, I say continue your search till you find it.
I wish I had taken more time in my youth to really understand what I needed, and to find that one person that would give even half of what I was willing to give them.
Well I have learned my lessons the h more...
Hi VagasAngel76,
Wow I think you may have hit a nerve, well maybe more than just one.
I am moved by what you write here with such openness and emotion.
Having searched for that kind of love/relationship all my life, and having settled for less, I say continue your search till you find it.
I wish I had taken more time in my youth to really understand what I needed, and to find that one person that would give even half of what I was willing to give them.
Well I have learned my lessons the hard way, and Im sure I will have more yet to come, but with each one I know I am getting closer.
Don't allow yourself to get bitter or to hate. The only way you can bring in the type of love that you want, is to LOVE.
Are you being unrealistic? oh I do hope not, otherwise here is a silly old woman waiting for her knight to come.
You are caring and loving woman that has so much to give. Dont settle for less and have faith that you will find what you after. less...
Hello again Vegas Angel. As nobody else has left a comment,i thought i'd jump back in again. Just been reading your replies to other peoples blogs. Mmmmmmmmm? Why the hell are you STILL single?
Like i said in my other reply,you sound like a dream woman. And i can't understand why someone hasn't snapped you up. You have a GREAT brain in ur pretty head,EVERYTHING you've said makes sense to me,and i'm sure,to everybody else who reads what you have written. What's the matter with the men over there more...
Hello again Vegas Angel. As nobody else has left a comment,i thought i'd jump back in again. Just been reading your replies to other peoples blogs. Mmmmmmmmm? Why the hell are you STILL single?
Like i said in my other reply,you sound like a dream woman. And i can't understand why someone hasn't snapped you up. You have a GREAT brain in ur pretty head,EVERYTHING you've said makes sense to me,and i'm sure,to everybody else who reads what you have written. What's the matter with the men over there? Don't they know a GOOD woman,when they meet one? Wake up guys,grab Vegasangel76 B4 i do. less...
..........................phew! Sorry,but i was lost for words there!WOW! Mmmmmm? Ummmm! You sound like EVERY mans dream. The words you used,the things you said,the feelings you MUST have, to have said what you said. I feel like a little cry now! I KNOW there are MANY women like you out there,all with a LOT of love to give. And everyone of you, KNOWS how to love your man,and how your man NEEDS to be loved.EVERYTHING i've just read,is how i feel,i know what i want...a Fairy Tale,if possible,would more...
..........................phew! Sorry,but i was lost for words there!WOW! Mmmmmm? Ummmm! You sound like EVERY mans dream. The words you used,the things you said,the feelings you MUST have, to have said what you said. I feel like a little cry now! I KNOW there are MANY women like you out there,all with a LOT of love to give. And everyone of you, KNOWS how to love your man,and how your man NEEDS to be loved.EVERYTHING i've just read,is how i feel,i know what i want...a Fairy Tale,if possible,would be nice. Vegas Angel,you ARE my kind of woman, i like the way you think.xxx less...
