I have had the roughest couple of days you can ever imagine possible. *sigh* It started just over a week ago. I was in my room, minding my own business, when along came my (soon to be) ex husband. He was looking to pick an argument. I on the other hand, was not going to give him that satisfaction, and "brushed" him off. Not happy with the outcome he then "turns" on my eldest son. To cut it short, they got into a fist fight, lots of swearing and scuffling and so forth. I called the police. Ex husband decides to call the police. The scene outside my house must have looked like a murder scene. Four police cars and a van. Ex husband opens the door to the police all calmly, then takes them too the kitchen. Meanwhile I am attending to my son and we are waiting back in my room. I have six police officers standing in my home.. two in the room with us.. two in the passage way and two in the kitchen. One of the officers from the kitchen, comes to join us in my room and tells my son that they are not going to press charges on my ex, because my ex is claiming that my son started it. At this point I see red. I calmly get up, walk pass the first three officers and get stopped by one at the kitchen door. At this point I shout out my ex husband's name, to get his attention.. he comes too the kitchen door and starts yelling at me.. (things I cant remember, but get my already flaring temper higher)I yell back and immediatly the police officer tells me to stop shouting.. well again too cut it short I ended up telling the police man what I thought of him.. and promptly got arrested for breach of the peace and assulting a police officer. Now I'm officially a criminal =( I spent that whole day in a police cell. Not an experience I wish to tell any grandkids I might have one day. The outcome..I had to see my solicitor and get an emergency injunction served. It was served last week. We return back to court next week. Meantime I got myself a fine to pay to the police officer I apparently "assulted". My big brother came down to stay too keep the peace for a few days, though I insisted he wasn't needed, he went home this evening.. and now I'm waiting to see what response I am going too get from the ex when he comes back. Why is this divorce taking so long anyway? =(
I have had the roughest couple of days you can ever imagine possible. *sigh* It started just over a week ago. I was in my room, minding my own business, when along came my (soon to be) ex husband. He was looking to pick an argument. I on the other hand, was not going to give him that satisfaction, and "brushed" him off. Not happy with the outcome he then "turns" on my eldest son. To cut it short, they got into a fist fight, lots of swearing and scuffling and so forth. I called the police. Ex husband decides to call the police. The scene outside my house must have looked like a murder scene. Four police cars and a van. Ex husband opens the door to the police all calmly, then takes them too the kitchen. Meanwhile I am attending to my son and we are waiting back in my room. I have six police officers standing in my home.. two in the room with us.. two in the passage way and two in the kitchen. One of the officers from the kitchen, comes to join us in my room and tells my son that they are not going to press charges on my ex, because my ex is claiming that my son started it. At this point I see red. I calmly get up, walk pass the first three officers and get stopped by one at the kitchen door. At this point I shout out my ex husband's name, to get his attention.. he comes too the kitchen door and starts yelling at me.. (things I cant remember, but get my already flaring temper higher)I yell back and immediatly the police officer tells me to stop shouting.. well again too cut it short I ended up telling the police man what I thought of him.. and promptly got arrested for breach of the peace and assulting a police officer. Now I'm officially a criminal =( I spent that whole day in a police cell. Not an experience I wish to tell any grandkids I might have one day. The outcome..I had to see my solicitor and get an emergency injunction served. It was served last week. We return back to court next week. Meantime I got myself a fine to pay to the police officer I apparently "assulted". My big brother came down to stay too keep the peace for a few days, though I insisted he wasn't needed, he went home this evening.. and now I'm waiting to see what response I am going too get from the ex when he comes back. Why is this divorce taking so long anyway? =(
While I feel sorry that you and you whole family are having your clothes washed in public, I have to state thate I find there are always two sides to a story.
Meanwhile, it would be wise for you to use your anger, your energy, in a better way, not in revenge but by making you and your children into a stronger and loving unit. Be well, dear Lady.
While I feel sorry that you and you whole family are having your clothes washed in public, I have to state thate I find there are always two sides to a story.
Meanwhile, it would be wise for you to use your anger, your energy, in a better way, not in revenge but by making you and your children into a stronger and loving unit. Be well, dear Lady.
Sweetie, that's one crappy couple of days! I know what you're going thru-- atleast on the part of it taking so long. And I'm not ignorant in the violence that can erupt between parent and child, since my son has been very volatile towards me, as has my ex. I am wondering, though, why the two of you reside together? I do hope the "injunction" is against your ex? And I hope that is the equivalent to a U.S. "restraining order", prohibiting whomever it's taken out on (an abusive spouse, or the aggressor) from coming within a certain range of the victim. I know that just the stress of waiting for the final order of divorce takes alot out of you. I know because I, too, have been in the process for over two years now. I am sorry you've had such a hard time. Know that you're not alone and that all this WILL end. Not soon enough, but it will. Hugs-- True
Sweetie, that's one crappy couple of days! I know what you're going thru-- atleast on the part of it taking so long. And I'm not ignorant in the violence that can erupt between parent and child, since my son has been very volatile towards me, as has my ex. I am wondering, though, why the two of you reside together? I do hope the "injunction" is against your ex? And I hope that is the equivalent to a U.S. "restraining order", prohibiting whomever it's taken out on (an abusive spouse, or the aggressor) from coming within a certain range of the victim. I know that just the stress of waiting for the final order of divorce takes alot out of you. I know because I, too, have been in the process for over two years now. I am sorry you've had such a hard time. Know that you're not alone and that all this WILL end. Not soon enough, but it will. Hugs-- True
Hang in there, I'm sure things will get better. Sometimes life throws us some very difficult challenges, but hopefully they make us stronger. Hopefully the next couple of days will better. I'm sure your family is very understanding and won't judge you on anything.
Hang in there, I'm sure things will get better. Sometimes life throws us some very difficult challenges, but hopefully they make us stronger. Hopefully the next couple of days will better. I'm sure your family is very understanding and won't judge you on anything.
Hello, and I am sorry that you have had to go through this as well as your son. Please take comfort that this too will pass. Maybe and most probably not as quickly as you need or would like. At times the odds just seem to be stacked against us, but continue to live your life, and to envision your life the way you would like it to be, and eventually with the help of supportive friends and family it will get there. There are 3 mottoes that I try to live by and they are:Kill them with kindness, what goes around comes around,(we should be so lucky to actually see it!), and there is power in silence. Hope this helps. Many read, few respond. Qadesh
Hello, and I am sorry that you have had to go through this as well as your son. Please take comfort that this too will pass. Maybe and most probably not as quickly as you need or would like. At times the odds just seem to be stacked against us, but continue to live your life, and to envision your life the way you would like it to be, and eventually with the help of supportive friends and family it will get there. There are 3 mottoes that I try to live by and they are:Kill them with kindness, what goes around comes around,(we should be so lucky to actually see it!), and there is power in silence. Hope this helps. Many read, few respond. Qadesh
I AM sorry to hear that happened to you. I am surprised that you did not ask him to just leave . In Texas If a Ex Or domestic partner is asked to leave your residence and the do not live there.If the do not comply with th request they can be arrested for criminal trespass.In addition after you ask them to leave and they get physically or verbally aggressive with you they can be arrested for domestic violence.Domestic Violence charges are Serious criminal charges. Here in the states getting arrested, and convicted for that charge will for some jobs destroy a career. Or if you try to get a firearm that will automatically Destroy any chances of ever owning a firearm again.
I AM sorry to hear that happened to you. I am surprised that you did not ask him to just leave . In Texas If a Ex Or domestic partner is asked to leave your residence and the do not live there.If the do not comply with th request they can be arrested for criminal trespass.In addition after you ask them to leave and they get physically or verbally aggressive with you they can be arrested for domestic violence.Domestic Violence charges are Serious criminal charges. Here in the states getting arrested, and convicted for that charge will for some jobs destroy a career. Or if you try to get a firearm that will automatically Destroy any chances of ever owning a firearm again.
